Sounding sexy in bed is an art that just can’t be taught. It’s all about experiencing and enjoying the passion, without really thinking about it. But for the uninitiated, here’s a guide on how to sound sexy in bed.
There’s more to great sex than just a good long shag.
We’ve all been there, those winding sex marathons that sometimes just don’t seem to end.
You’re finished up already or you’re still waiting for your huffing mate to go to the crescendo, but it just doesn’t get over.
The silent buzz in your head peaks to a tension, and somehow it’s got nothing to do with sexual tension.
It’s just quiet. Really, really quiet.
And then, you part your lips to speak, and all your dry throat allows out is a dry squeak.
And then, it’s back to the see-saw ride of passionate, quiet love. Silent loving is hot, but nothing can beat the sultry, seductive moan of sexual appreciation in bed! The best way to enjoy great sex is to learn to sound sexy in bed and just enjoy the things that make you go… mmmmmm!
How to sound sexy in bed
Panting softly into each other’s ears is a huge turn on, especially if your voice is drowning in sexual passion. To most, speaking in bed is taboo, and speaking aloud about fantasies is way out of question!
But to enjoy a good sexy convo in bed, you need more than just a sexy body, you need a sexy mind and a sexier voice. Hit the lights, get into the sheets, and play by these rules to hit the highest note in your orgasmonica!
Preparing your voice
Learning how to sound sexy in bed isn’t actually about the words you use, or the quotes you pull out of a cheap paperback. It’s all inside you. Even an “I love you” or a “like what I’m doing to you?” can send surges of heat up your mate’s tuned spine.
Understanding how to sound sexy can be easy if you know how to go about it. A sultry, sexy low voice that’s gasping with passion can do wonders in bed. Have you ever tried talking softly while the sheets get bunched up under your partner’s butt? Talk sleazy to turn on your mate, and always, always appreciate your partner and the activities both of you are doing in bed. If you like the way your hands feel over your lover’s back, let them know. Whisper it in their ears, and don’t stop your hands from wandering around. Accentuate your words with nibbles, kisses and surprise moves!
Start talking dirty
Do you know your partner? Then you should know how dirty they want to get in bed. Does it end with you in their mind, or do thoughts wander out to other people? Talking dirty is a great arousal that’s hard to resist. But cooing seductively and creating fantasies through words can feel even better. Talk trash or talk mush, but keep the tempo high and your voice dripping with lust. [Read: How to talk dirty]
When you have sex, it’s hard to know what you say all the time, but it doesn’t really matter. Look into your mate’s eyes and talk softly, you can even go mush, baby babble or raunchy, just as long as you talk and sound sexy.
Do you want to moan and groan, but just don’t know how to go about it because you’ve never done it before? Well, there’s always a first time for anything.
To keep your moaning subtle, take the help of a good seductive album or pick a sexy song. Play your favorite mood music while getting frisky, and see how you feel when you reciprocate your partner’s moves with moans. You might just end up loving it! Another good reason to play those music notes is the rhythm it brings into your sheets. So the next time you decide to talk dirty, keep the silence at bay with some mood music.
The perfect words
We’ve all heard the lightning-like thwack and the glass shattering groans and moans in porn movies, but that can be quite frightening in real life. If you do want to know how to sound sexy in bed, learn to keep it simple in reality. Don’t go calling your partner bad names or shrieking like Godzilla’s on the warpath.
It may seem terribly exciting to you, but to your mate, that could climb up to the #1 reason why they hate sex. With you. Use words that can connect both of you. And just so you know, there’s nothing sexier than calling out your lover’s name while making love. It’s intimate, arousing, and just way too sexy.
Bring in the sultry moans
A sexy voice is definitely hubba-hubba! But a seductive moan of appreciation can take your mate to frenzyhornyland! Indulge in moans every now and then. It is a way of expressing excitement and pleasure. Sounding sexy or moaning now and then lets your mate know that you’re enjoying what you’re doing, and it also shows that you’re losing control and flying into ecstasyland. We see it in movies all the time, but you don’t have to do exactly what they do.
Show your appreciation by making some noise and see how you like it. It doesn’t have to happen only while having sex, you can moan while cuddling or even while kissing. But most importantly, it’s a great way to let your lover know that you’re enjoying what’s going on. And just in case you do fall in love with moaning and talking sexy in bed, just be considerate of your neighbors and avoid screaming!
Using your body while talking sexy
Use your hands a lot when you talk in bed. If you want to compliment his broad shoulders, then run your hands along it as you tell him how sexy it is. Or if it’s her soft back that turns you on, then nibble her neck and shoulders as you whisper to her. Connecting the talk and the body can make sex feel so much more steamier. And don’t ever let your hands stay in one place. Let them wander like you just can’t get enough.
Go for the pleasure points that you know of, the ones that can turn your mate on like there’s no tomorrow. The heady mix of passion and moans can arouse your mate like never before, and you would have figured out how to sound sexy in bed without even going overboard or feeling awkward.